Place looked like a war zone—our hometown called Chocolate Town—had been ravaged by heavy rains and flood waters a couple years back. Streets were all torn up and filled with heavy road equipment, diesel fumes, flagmen, and dust that rose like smoke from gravel beds kicked up by cars driven by people like me who were getting more than a bit ticked off with all the congestion associated with repairing underground storm water drains. No vacant back streets, side alleys, or alternative routes to skirt the carnage either--all had been found out and filled with bumper-to-bumper sour pusses like me just trying to get and return without burning too much daylight. So I vented. I released. I exhaled the scoundrel—the irritation that was hounding me— as I reminded myself over and over again to just “let it go.”
Now for me, that’s easier said than done, but it can be done. And when I do let go, when I do say goodbye to life’s irritating annoyances it generates a much better and healthier me.
Release does that—the opening of the hand or heart, rather than the tightening of it—liberates, unshackles, unfetters. Ann Landers once said, “Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
What needs unfettered for you? What needs let go of? What do you need to say goodbye or farewell to?
The following is a list of farewells that could help trigger some ideas for your file:
1. Farewell to trying to read minds and expecting others to read yours. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
2. Farewell to looking for perfect relationships. There are no perfect people just different versions of imperfect ones.
3. Farewell to inventing problems that don’t exist and lead to self-sabotage. Separating mind games from reality helps build confidence.
4. Farewell to thinking about only the negative or bad parts of things. Viewing situations more positively leads to good places.
5. Farewell to always blaming others or always blaming yourself. Either way is unrealistic.
6. Farewell to denying your mistakes.
7. Farewell to not living your life your way, the way that’s right for you.
8. Farewell to letting the little annoyances get the best of you.
9. Farewell to thinking life is supposed to be easy.
10. Farewell to thinking giving up and starting over is a sign of failure.
Letting go is good for what works when the holding on is creating a little too much hold on us.